Three Ways to Live into What you Love,
Even if you Feel You’re being Irresponsible and Reckless
Why don’t you choose to bring your true gifts to the world and create your dreams? I have a hunch! You think living your dreams and using your true gifts is irresponsible. You say to yourself: “how could I do this in lieu of having kids to support, a roof to pay, and all my financial obligations?”
My guess is you feel trapped in responsibilities!
So your answer is to do it all when you have more time later than you have today. But this is a necessary lie, it just isn’t true! You must embrace the brevity of life because you won’t be any less busy later than you are now.
We all have responsibility. Living planet Earth has its requirements to living in a nice dwelling, enjoy nice things, and create great experiences. But this doesn’t say that you have to sell your soul, and do activities that suck you dry of your enthusiasm.
Even if you cannot make what you love your financial support, you must give it attention anyway. I know I’m right because if you do not, you won’t have the energy for everything else in your life.
Your business or career is a vehicle to foster this. Just consider what plays out if you neglect what matters most to you. Everything else and everyone else is then responsible to fill that hole. Nothing works. Money will not buy you out of misery. If you spend all your time on meaningless activity, your report card at end of life is an “F”. You basically chose to live in captivity to your fear, security, status and comfort when you abandon what you love for something else, and compromise your life spirit! Why would anyone invest their life spirit in a compromise! The brevity of life warrants you take a quality lens to life not a quantity lens. Life is too short to major in minor things.
But beyond your fears that hold you captive, the other reason why you don’t start doing what you love is that you’re indecisive. You have so many things you want to start that you don’t want to lose one of them for the other. You want it all. And there’s no way you see stuffing all of this into your life, at least not right away. So you remain in limbo, powerless, wondering whether you have the power to create it all.
First, let’s simplify by establishing a hierarchy of importance. Not everything you want to do or create has equal importance. You’ll have it all, but let’s consider what matters most. I’m asking you to identify what is indispensable to your happiness.
Write out a narrative of your fantasy day! Remember the scene in the film “Artificial Intelligence.” The robot boy finally gets his day that matters most—to spend an entire day with his mommy’s full attention, free of distractions.
Just imagine how you’d get up in the morning on your fantasy day. Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? Then add anything you want into this day until you go to sleep. None of this is reasonable, practical, or achievable, it’s a dream! The content that you write—who you’re with, what you’re doing, and where you are, tell you so much about who you are, and what matters to you. There are three levels of value as you review the content. First, are the qualities that are indispensable to you. You cannot live without these. Second, are the important items that have great value. And third, qualities in your day are pure frills. These to totally optional.
I want you have everything in your fantasy day and more, but let’s put a hyper focus on bringing the indispensable qualities into your life. Compare how many of these qualities are trending now in your life. Just imagine what an entire day of these qualities would be like! You’d have all the energy for everything else! You’d have a recipe for staying young, and keeping your stress in check. When you create life subject matter that means so much to you it makes you feel strong, confidence, healthy, and vibrant. Happiness is the boobie prize of creating what matters most to you!
Notice that you’re narrowing your focus here on the one thing that brings you into aliveness, not everything. Being overwhelmed is when everything you want has equal value. Getting traction begins with arrange what matters most.
Next, make a list of “non-essentials”. Take cross section inventory of the WHO, WHAT, and WHERE aspects of your current life. Begin by looking at who you must punt from your life based on behaviors that are weeds in your garden! Then consider WHAT you’re doing with your time. What activities need negation, delegation, or automation? Decide when these activities are to be gone, even if you don’t have the means, decide on a date of elimination to organize around! And determine where you spend your time, and decide when you’ll cut off from these places. Clear the decks for action, and make a hole in your life for the new!
Lastly, creating something entirely new—consider a new skill or area of fascination and elect to step into it, and make it a priority. Begin an art class, piano class, golf lessons, martial arts, or voice lessons. Learning something new moves your comfort zones out and helps you experience yourself anew. In fact, you’ll enjoy all the new energy coming into you by learning something new.
So, let’s review the key points:
- If you can make doing what matters to you and what energies you (use your gifts), to make a living, organize your life around it. If you can’t, structure your means of production to support creating what matters to you in your life.
- You have responsibility, we all do, it’s required on Earth. However it doesn’t disqualify your soul’s hunger to find its way into what you do. If you just start by choice, you begin to just focus on activities, people, and places that indispensable to your happiness. If you begin listing what these aspects are, you may actually find they’re more accessible than you thought. Your head was in the way.
- Make a fantasy day to pinpoint what your top priorities are and get decisive and new subject matter to focus on creating in your life building process.
- Clear the decks for action by listing your “NOT-TO-DO” list of non-essentials. When you know what matters, you see weeds in the garden right away that you have to pull. Be decisive about when you will have these items out of your life to work toward.
- Start something new—even if it isn’t what you’re longing for, creating something that fascinates you, and expand. This will give you new creative energy and affirm you’re beginning to go outside the familiar, being adventurous.
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Living in Captivity to your Passion
If you do make what you love a career, and monetize your passion, you’ll immediately find that what you love is what you’re gifted at, and it’s what belongs to the world. And the more you trust this as a compass in your life the greater and greater life brings meaning and joy to your time here on Earth. When you’re at your last breath, you’ll have a reckoning with your soul. Everyone including you has a sacred project buried in them to get expressed, in fact it’s what you came for. Use this wild and precious gift of life that you’re given. Do what you came for. Everything else works when you do! Choose to become the predominant creative force in your life and life by a life plan that matters to you. You dictate how you organize your life, not others, your roles, or responsibilities. Everything is up for grabs, you can rethinking and re-imagine your life at any time.
Copyright 2013 John Davidson